This video speaks for itself. I remember watching it for the first time almost one year ago. My heart ached. I remember lamenting, “I want to stop more than anything. Why can’t I stop?! What’s wrong with me?”
I just watched the video again. Instead of heartache I feel gratitude for my God’s mercy and grace. I know I was lost and He found me.
I noticed something at the end of the video that I didn’t catch before and that a friend in recovery mentioned in a group meeting a few weeks ago. The video references a website: combatingpornography.org. If you go to that website you’ll notice that it redirects you to overcomingpornography.org.
I agree with my recovery brother. This is significant! It has made all the difference in my recovery—ALL the difference.
When I fight against my addiction I lose. I will always lose. I’m addicted! I literally don’t have the ability to stop myself from acting out. (If you disagree, I invite you to prayerfully reconsider and learn more about addiction from both church leaders—A.K.A. prophets and apostles—and empirical evidence.)
I remember acknowledging my addiction without admitting defeat. This led me to countless oaths and relapses. I thought I was going insane. I think I was! I thought I had to fight it out and win, but I couldn’t.
The irony of an addict fighting addiction.
I think Satan uses my desire to be free against me. I’m certain he does when I let him. It goes something like this:
Me: “I can do this!”
Satan: “No, you can’t.” <— ** Truth mixed with lies! Deception alert! **
Me: “Yes, I can! I won’t give up.”
Satan: “You can’t do it. You’ll never beat this.” <— ** Deception alert! **
The truth is I can’t, but here’s the part that the devil leaves out: I can’t on my own; I can with God!
Of course, Satan doesn’t want me to think about calling upon God when I feel discouraged. He would rather I focus on my inner drive and make this fight my own. Of course he would! So long as he can keep me fighting solo, he knows he’ll win. I know from personal experience that he’ll win unless I call upon my God for grace in times of need, even and especially when I don’t think I deserve it.
So I’m an advocate of waving my white flag when temptation or cravings hit. Oh, it definitely wounds my pride… thankfully! It goes something like this:
“Father in Heaven, I acknowledge that part of me wants to indulge. I can’t do this on my own. I’m powerless. Please give me grace to overcome this. Please save me!”
Then I ask Him what He wants me to do, and I do it. Sometimes He asks me to call a recovery friend. Other times He asks me to apologize and make amends to my wife for the dumb thing I said earlier that day. The specifics vary, but trusting Him always works.
I like to think of waving my white flag as a three-step process.
(1) I admit my powerlessness.
(2) I plead to my God for grace and to know what to do.
(3) I do it.
My white flag comes in handy for more problems than just triggers or cravings. I also wave it when I feel overwhelmed, stressed, or lonely. I can even wave it when I’m stuck on a homework problem. I’m still learning to wave it when I feel inadequate or angry, but I’m learning.
Waving my white flag by admitting my powerlessness, praying to my God, and obeying His will lets Him fight my battles for me. I’ve found that He is eager to do this! He did it for the Israelites countless times in the Old Testament. Why wouldn’t He do the same for me?
The truth is, He already did.
I see no shame in admitting defeat, not when I immediately and sincerely reach out to God. This has become the foundation of my recovery.
“Let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy, and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:16, NT, Holy Bible).
2 thoughts on “I pray I never forget to wave my white flag”
Wow–that’s an amazing video. Thanks for sharing.
A few weeks ago I taught a lesson in church about Gideon in the Old Testament. His army was hopelessly outnumbered, and instead of God helping him increase his army, God instructed Gideon to cut his army down twice. The army he went into battle with was 1/10 of the starting size, which was already half the enemy’s army size. That’s how I feel when I come against some temptations–like God is asking me to cut my army down and rely on him. Just like Gideon, He helps me through if I can overcome my desire to fight it on my own.
I love this! What a perfect example straight from the scriptures. Thanks, Rob.